All relationships are important but we are narrowing it down to friendships. We shall be having a two part conversation on friendship.
It’s about the women and well we will also get to see if women and men can actually be friends.
Today we cover women friendships.
Friends are family we choose, they are the brothers and sisters you never had and are there in any given situation.
Sounds nice hey! Any girl with besties knows this feeling .
Some say friendship is the hardest thing to explain and it cannot be learned.
Why am I talking about friends?
Because they are pivotal part of our lives, they can make you, they can break you, they can build you . They can have quite an influence that you carry through life.
I believe most times we get in trouble because we dont define friendships, yes we do not.
Aristotle wrote on different kinds of friendships.
Proverbs 11:30 The seeds of good deeds become a tree of life; a wise person wins friends.
Friendships of utility. These are people you benefit from. These are friends who may be in your life to help you on your journey to the next, or fulfilling your purpose.
These can be seasonal but not forgotten. Never forget those that helped you.
1 Corinthians 15:33 Don’t be fooled by those who say such things, for “bad company corrupts good character.”
Friendships of pleasure. These exist to make you happy. It’s whose company you enjoy your get to have a good time with them.
John 15:12-13 This is my commandment: Love each other in the same way I have loved you. There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.
Friendships of good. These are by mutual understanding and respect. These usually are around for a longer period of your life.
They love you at all times and are born for times of adversity.
God knows our desire to be known and to be loved and created us for companionship.
One thing friendship thrives on is trust.
There must be a comfort level no matter what kind of friendship it is.
Unfortunately trust also opens us to being easily hurt it’s kind of inevitable so we must know that you will be disappointed one way or the other and you must learn to forgive.
It is scientifically proven that friends help one survive ,it ignites the part of the brain that makes us feel good. It also extends life expectancy.
Friendship is important and many times it will be those you choose.
Let’s look at a few examples of friendships in the Bible.
Naomi and Ruth, they may have been kinsmen but they also portrayed a loyalty, faithfulness and sticking closer than a brother.
David and Jonathan were friends instantly. Have you met those friends that you just hit it off?
Daniel, Mesach, Abednego and Shadrach. These depicts a life long friends. They grew alongside eachother and got into the political offices of Babylon.
Job and his friends, even after he lost everything they stuck around to the end.
There are so many amazing examples of friendships but we can’t wind this without knowing some of the decisions we make choosing friends come with consequences.
1 Corinthians 15:33 Do not be so deceived and misled! Evil companionships (communion, associations) corrupt and deprave good manners and morals and character.
If we had known why our parents deliberately fought off some friends we had, maybe we could have saved ourselves that drama.
It’s true when they say show me your friends and I will show you who you are.
Yes even for the negative side you tuck away ,if they are thieves and you accepting of the behavior you are a thief too. Ouch! But it’s true.
Proverbs 19:4 Wealth makes many “friends”; poverty drives them all away.
It is very true some friends you have them for what you can offer ,it’s not a bad thing it means you have something to give anyway and some friends will walk away when you don’t have what to offer.
Proverbs 12:26 The godly give good advice to their friends; the wicked lead them astray.
Kindly note there is good and bad advice. The results will always speak for themselves you don’t have to wait till the end thou. Get away when you can.
Proverbs 17:9 Love prospers when a fault is forgiven, but dwelling on it separates close friends.
Am certain many friendships have been lost along the way because of unforgiveness.
It’s true ,what they tell most people is that forgiveness is for them but they forget to tell them it’s okay to forgive and not be best friends because to each his own. Everyone has what they can tolerate or cannot.
Forgive because yes it’s mostly for you.
Proverbs 18:19 An offended friend is harder to win back than a fortified city. Arguments separate friends like a gate locked with bars.
If you can avoid an argument please do, understanding eachother and agreeing to disagree doesn’t have to be an argument.
Proverbs 11:9 With their words, the godless destroy their friends, but knowledge will rescue the righteous.
Know when they say they may forget what you said but not how you made them feel.
It doesn’t cost to be kind, you don’t have to be mean to get a point across.
Proverbs 11:13 A gossip goes around telling secrets, but those who are trustworthy can keep a confidence.
Value the things your friends tell you in confidence they trusted you.
Learn to value , appreciate and celebrate your friends. They are a gift even if you don’t know how long some may last.
Be grateful to those who make you happy, to those who make you grow, to those who hold your hand, to those who are never seen.
This is by no means a message from one of perfection but from experience , wisdom and observation on the life she has lived yet.
Thanks for passing by. Catch part 2 this Saturday.